She Comes First by therapist Ian Kerner, PhD, is the definitive, New York Times–recommended guide to female pleasure — a book that reshaped conversations about intimacy. Blending research, humour and step-by-step guidance, Kerner argues for a simple philosophy: her pleasure comes first, and knowing what you’re doing matters more than anything else.
Inside the Guide
- Evidence-based understanding of female anatomy and response
- Clear, respectful techniques presented without crudeness
- Communication exercises that build trust between partners
- Insights drawn from thousands of therapy sessions
An essential read for couples and anyone who values informed, generous intimacy — recommended in university human-sexuality courses worldwide.
Book Details
| Title | She Comes First |
| Subtitle | The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman |
| Author | Ian Kerner, PhD |
| Publisher | William Morrow |
| Binding | Paperback |
| Language | English |
| ISBN-13 | 9780060538262 |
| Genre | Relationships & Intimacy |
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this book tasteful?
Yes — Kerner writes with clinical warmth and respect; it’s used in academic settings.
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Is She Comes First tasteful or explicit?
Respectfully informative — Ian Kerner writes with clinical warmth; the book is even used in university human-sexuality courses.
Who is Ian Kerner?
A licensed sex therapist (PhD) and New York Times well-known counselor whose clinical practice inspired this definitive intimacy guide.
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Who should read She Comes First?
Couples and individuals wanting an evidence-based, generous approach to intimacy — widely recommended by therapists.
What Readers Say
The best-selling sex advice book of the last decade · Translated into a dozen languages
★★★★★ “Quite simply the best guide out there.”
— AskMen.com · Press mention
★★★★☆ “After my husband and I read this book, we found the instructions and tips to be very helpful and easy to follow. For some couples this book could be a game changer.”
— The Fit Pelvis · Pelvic Health Professional Review · 2021
★★★★★ “Witty and easy to follow, filled with lots of solid information. I recommend couples read this book together and discuss it along the way.”
— Cindy Scharkey · Sex Educator Book Review
★★★☆☆ “Written primarily for heterosexual cisgender couples, so it may not be appropriate for everyone.”
— The Fit Pelvis · Pelvic Health Professional Review · 2021
Reader reviews sourced from public platforms (Goodreads, Amazon & book communities) and lightly edited for length. They reflect global readers of these titles.






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